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The Before You Say Yes checklist

Before you say yes, have you talked about these?

Twenty-four conversations that shape everyday married life. Go through them on your own or together, and mark where you are with each one. It takes about five minutes, and nothing you tick leaves your browser.

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Home and family

Where we’ll live in the first few years

Whether we’ll live with parents, and for how long

How big decisions are made between us and our families

How festivals and time are shared between two families

Money

Whether we’re savers or spenders

Joint accounts, separate accounts, or both

Supporting our parents, and how that might change

Any loans, debts or big commitments

Careers

Whose work bends, and when

Moving cities for a job

Work after children

Long hours, travel and time together

Children

Whether we want children, and when

What we’d do if it doesn’t go to plan

How we’d raise them

How involved grandparents would be

Disagreements and care

What each of us needs during an argument

How we make up afterwards

How we show care when one of us is unwell or low

What would make either of us feel unheard or unsafe

Everyday life and faith

Mornings, weekends and daily routines

Food, faith and practice at home

Friends and social life

Sharing the housework

These are some of the questions worth exploring. Yours Honestly helps you understand your own expectations and explore compatibility in greater depth.

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